Make improvements.

Future-Created-TodayI’ve been feeling down lately, that’s no secret. I’m homesick, I miss my family and friends, and my husband’s gone A LOT. But I’m not content with feeling unhappy. SO. Here are a few different things I want to work on to make my own life easier. This list is for me, no one else, but I’m putting it out there to hold myself accountable.

Things I want to improve on:

  1. Get Bennett on a structured nap schedule. I don’t remember how I did it with McKenzie, but she was an awesome sleeper and scheduled from very early on. Bennett kinda just naps when he wants, often in my arms, and I think he gets overtired too frequently. McKenzie’s school schedule makes that trickier, but that little man needs his sleep to grow, and I want to make sure he gets as much as possible. So I want to work on that, and I think it would make my life much easier.
  2. Get in the real world. The loneliness/homesickness I’ve mentioned (multiple times now) makes me turn to “online” company too often. But is that really company? Every time McKenzie says, “Momma, put down your phone.” I get a reality check. Ouch, that hurts to even admit. But obviously, I need to be more present with my kiddos, so I want to work on limiting my online time and using that time more productively.
  3. Cook & Eat Healthier. I eat way too much cereal and things that are “easy,” but not necessarily healthy. And I’m totally guilty of letting McKenzie’s eating habits fall to the wayside due to my own lazy approach to nutrition lately. SO. I want to cook more meals & make a concerted effort to eat healthier for McKenzie’s sake. She’s “picky,” but only because I let her get away with it. That’s going to change. Whether it’s meal planning, or just having a day of meal prep every week, I definitely need to emphasize healthier eating habits. And meal planning would probably save money, too.
  4. Be a better listener. As embarrassing as it is to admit, I’m one of those people who sometimes is a terrible listener, waits to talk, and interrupts other people. Unflattering qualities, I know. But it isn’t because I don’t care. It isn’t my ego, or me thinking that what I have to say is somehow more interesting or important. Nevertheless, it’s embarrassing, and often I don’t even notice. In an effort to be a better person/wife/momma/friend, I want to work on being a better, more attentive listener.
  5. Find a workout routine. I’m a much happier person when I’m active, and I’ve literally been given the gift of a clean slate—you see, since Bennett was born I’ve lost 40lbs (-25lbs from my pre-pregnancy weight…I give all the credit to breastfeeding). That’s almost 20% of my body weight, so obviously I’m pretty excited! I haven’t talked about it because I don’t want to sound like I’m bragging, but I don’t want to mess up this opportunity to feel better about myself and get fit. I’d like to carve out a time to work out every weekday while McKenzie’s at school, and I want to focus on toning and building muscle. I need a routine, and I need to stick to it. I’ll start making afternoon appointments and leave my mornings clear. Maybe I’ll make use of Bennett’s new nap schedule (^^from #1)!
  6. Keep the house cleaner. Lately, I’ve found myself being lazy about housework. And I don’t care about this because I think people will judge me—it honestly just makes me feel stressed-out & overwhelmed living in a mess. For my own sanity, I want to start doing more small things everyday, so I can avoid the crazy cleaning sessions and the stress of living in a messy house. I bet #2 ^^ will help with this, too.
  7. Go to bed earlier, wake up earlier. I relish my alone time after the kiddos are asleep—maybe too much. I end up going to sleep too late (like midnight), and then I’m either tired or cranky during the day, neither of which lend to being the best person I can be. On the weekends, I’m totally guilty of sleeping in while McKenzie watches the iPad. If I simply manage my time more wisely and get more sleep, I’m confident I can achieve more throughout the day and feel more rested. Win-win.

I’m confident that if I make sure that these things happen, I will be a much happier, healthier, and more productive person. And I don’t think these little goals are too lofty, but they’ll definitely take some effort, so I’m going to really try and make it work. If you have any suggestions (meal planning, working out with kiddos, sleep schedules), please do share!

Rachel - February 25, 2014 - 1:41 pm

You list (minus the kid stuff) is a lot like mine. I’m pregnant and preparing for our first little and the uncomfortableness and other pregnancy things have been getting me down.

My hubby and I had a conversation about several of those things (eating better, workouts, cleaning) just a couple days ago. It’s funny how the little things can improve your mood.

Good luck with achieving your goals!

Nicole | Life So Lovely - February 25, 2014 - 2:33 pm

Thanks Rachel! I think the little things definitely add up and can make a big difference. Pregnancy uncomfortableness is no fun, and you’re entitled to some lazy days! But I completely relate to things adding up and feeling overwhelming. Blah.

Angie @ Pint of Goals - March 16, 2014 - 8:43 pm

Maybe making a bunch of freezer meals would work for you! I have a recent post with links to freezer meals, and they’ve all been so yummy.